When it was made apparent that by letting Hekate and I work together was a good way to get things going, I never really considered not doing it. I’ve had my reservations, of course, but I never really thought that I wouldn’t go through with it. I don’t know anything about this triple goddess other than the fact that witches think she’s pretty darn awesome and that she is of Greek origin. Aside from that, I’m pretty much lost on a sea of information gathering. I don’t know what blogs to look into, what web pages are the best one to look into, and I don’t know how to sort the wheat from the chaff. All in all, I’m really not worried about that particular aspect, honestly. I don’t feel that with only a month and a day of working together – and no possible knowing if it could go on any longer – I need to work on the heavy information gathering. And besides, I think at this phase in things she’s more like a stepping stone to get me back to where I should be instead of where I think I am. All in all, it’s a confusing time, but it’s my reservations that I keep feeling deep within.
One of my largest fears is that I don’t know how to pray properly. I don’t have to give her offerings or libations, although I would like to. (I wonder if she’d like the tequila…) If I enjoy doing it with my current menagerie of OTHERS™ then why not a passer-through? But, really, all I need to do is pray. That’s what the oracle session told me. And I keep getting stuck on this little niblet. How do you pray? I know that I was supposed to do it when I was part of the Methodist church of my youth. And I know that imagery from Catholicism shows the Mother Mary with her palms pressed together in an image of piety. Is that how you pray? Does what your body does or does not do matter when you’re praying? I always just assumed that praying was like a mental letter to the gods. And I don’t think I’m far off here, but do I have to be in a certain position to do it? Should I be kneeling at the little altar table I set up for Hekate? Or, can I do it at any time and anywhere? The last two nights, I’ve sent off little missives to her before I fall asleep. Dear Hekate. I’m not sure if I’m praying right. I don’t think that matters – at least I hope it doesn’t. The thing is I don’t know what I’m doing. How will I know you’ll answer me? Will I just know? Or is that part of what all this is? Things of that nature. I assume I’m praying properly, but my niggling doubt is more than niggling right now. Maybe I’m not doing it correctly and that’s why I don’t know if I even am receiving a response…
Yet another reservation, that one. The responses. In my last entry about this new arc in my life, I mentioned that I was pretty scared about my God-Phone (BANANA PHONE) not working properly. I know that it does with the OTHERS™ in my life, but that doesn’t mean I’ll know it works with new gods in my life. And how will I know what a response is? I can hear Papa Legba in my head. Sometimes, I can hear both Sekhmet and Hetharu in my head. However, the thing with the two of them is that I tend to feel as opposed to know. For example, right now, I know that I am feeling the unparalleled need to give them some good cones of incense today. And that they would like some libations. I think Hetharu wants tea and I’m not quite sure what my leonine lady desires. These are more than feelings, more like impressions really, but that’s how I know they are in my life. It’s like little glimpses here and there. I don’t hear them the way I do the Loud Mouth Legba (…who likes that one…). I assume it will be similar with Hekate, but here I am… I’m taking a chance that my God-Phone will be working the way it should be and I’ll hear her. But, what if it doesn’t? What if I’m doing all of this and nothing actually comes from her arena? Where am I then?
I’m also incredibly frightened by the actual work that we’ll be doing. In what form can I expect it to take? Can I expect it to be like the shadow work that has been mentioned to me? If that’s the case, then should I have Hekate and Sekhmet on standby for working through some of the more horrific issues (rapes, for example)? But, what if it isn’t shadow work that is what is going to get this ball rolling? What if it’s something else? And because I have such a very limited capacity in the realm of magic and working on things in a magical capacity, then how will I know what I’m doing is the right way? Again, this comes back to the God-phone related fear, but it’s also in the not-knowing. In not knowing what to expect in the realm of the working, I know fear. I’m not one of those people who needs to know the future at all times, although sometimes I think precog would be kind of nice, but it would be nice to get the feeling of a little speck of inkling now and again. Instead, I turn to the Well Worn Path oracle deck I own in the hopes that something will come to me from there, but nothing thus far. I’m still left uncertain, adrift, and scared out of my mind.
You know, one of the things that I’ve gone on about in this blog a time or two is about how a lot of pagans don’t necessarily catalog their failures or their fears. And while some strides have been made to correct these particular aspects, you’re still liable to find the blogs of the people who aren’t open and honest about their particular paths. And that’s fine. Those people are doing what they do best and I’m not going to sit in judgment. Hell, for all I know, they’ve tamped down their fears so much that they don’t have them anymore.
But, I’ll be a little honest here.
I’m human. I don’t know what to expect. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what I’m going to end up doing. I’m scared out of my fucking mind more often than not, with the constantly not knowing and feeling like I’m aimlessly wandering down the spiritual turnpike. I’m scared at the thought of practicing spells again. I’m scared at the thought of relying heavily on my intuition as opposed to what I know, in my head. I’m scared at the very prospect of working with a new god that I know nothing about. I’m scared about working on my issues. I’m scared about what form that working will take. I’m scared that I’ll end up fucking myself up worse instead of actually fixing myself. I’m scared for all of this and for things that I can’t even verbalize yet.
I know fear.
And it has made itself quite comfortable in my heart.
There’s nothing wrong with fear. It’s healthy, on occasion. How did all this work with Hekate get started? There was a time, a few years ago, that she played a major role in my life, just as I was leaving a truly dark time and at a crossroads. The darkness behind me, blue light to my right, green light to my left. I dreamed of her almost nightly.
A friend of mine is a devotee of hers. She offered free oracular sessions on Hekate’s behalf. I’ve never worked with her but said, “Why not?” I asked her about how to get back to witchcraft, passed my issues and self-doubt, and she offered a relationship for a month and a day…
You should honor her still. If only in passing. :)
I would love to. I found the mention of Hekate recently between yourself and Arienwen very ironic, since just a couple weeks ago I had been thinking of her.
I think you should do it sooner rather than later. I don’t want to push but I just… feel.
Your comment about fears and failures are good and have prompted me to put my peace pipe down and start writing about some of the really shitty times in my practice.
I think the reason too that people don’t blog about it is because failure, as it is one of the greatest teaching tools (fear too), is highly personal. It usually hits us right in the toughest places, the biggest shadows, the most painful memories….things we have a hard time dealing with ourselves, none the less telling others about.
You’re doing what you should be doing: being honest with yourself. Nothing wrong with that. (Also I spent my childhood in a methodist church too. some days our similarities creep me out, but then i’m like, NAH ITS PAGANISM!).
I think everyone should write about the shittier times. The reason being because then you have a record to go back to. “Oh, that really did suck. Why did that happen?” And then as time passes, you’ll grow wiser (or something) so that you’ll be able to figure out why the failure, the fear, or the mistake happened.
Yeah, I’m not into the keeping stuff to myself, as if you couldn’t tell. I’m one of those people that feel the need to tell it like it is. And I’m also the kind of person who doesn’t want to hide who I am as a pagan (which is why I came out pretty early on because, it just didn’t seem right to hide). Besides, that’s what this whole blog is about: detailing everything and not hiding.
I don’t honestly remember what life was like in the Methodist church, too much, anymore. Except that it never really fit well. For me, at least. Did you go to a Trinity Methodist, too? :)
xD haha I have no idea, my memories of the church are foggy at best. I only remember getting mad at sunday school because I couldn’t understand why you would put a baby in a basket on the nile river…but hey that’s abrahamism. also that church burnt down twice. Bad juju anyone?
I agree. People should. I write about mine in a my BOS and paper journals. Mostly because I do like to reflect on them for some time, go back to them again and again and THEN pass my judgment on whether I should share it with the world or not. I sort of stopped sharing on my blog since my family discovered it and I’m very awkward about sharing that stuff with them??
I keep menticulous records of everything because you’re right, you grow wiser from looking back and…past failures inform future decisions. But you’ve influenced me to crack open my hermit shell and start sharing more often. 8D yay friendssss
anywho, i am really curious to see where hekate takes you. I haven’t touched witchy stuff in about 5 years, so I understand your hestitation/fear/not knowing what to do next.
Have you ever prayed during a quick crisis situation? I discovered my body movements for prayer that way. I apparently feel the need to put my forehead to something. Be it a book, a figurine, or a person. Sometimes hand gestures. I don’t know. but maybe try to look back on something like that and let that inform your movements? Maybe you might find it ends up being the legit way to pray, who knows. :>
BEST OF LUCK ON THIS JOURNEY!
If it helps on lack-of-info side of things, I wrote a post for the pagan blog project sometime ago, on Her and my work with Her:
I am also planning to write another soon, coparing how the ways Hekate and The Morrigan ways to work differ.
For the rest, I can say i think it’s pretty natural to fear before approaching a new deity, especially if you know the two of you have serious work to do.
When I started to devote myself to Her, I started with asking Her blessinng on the day before me by praying to her shrine in the morning: I lit up a black candle, sometimes even burned some myrrh or sage incense, and listed all Her ephites, asking that She could keep my feet on Her path and turn my weakness into strenght.
In libations, I found Her to be a Lady of simple tastes: homemade cakes, honey, oil, milk, and over all black olives and boiled eggs.
When our work togther started, I didn’t even know that having your private godphone was possible, but She managed to send Her messages home pretty clearly, even when I was very distracted from all things spiritual. For example, I was going to end up seeing movies with the same unlerdlying theme or message every single time I turned on the TV, Or, when I was faltering, I was going to find a someone saying something that brought me back to one of Her lessons.
The fact Her name means ‘the Worker From Afar’ says a lot about the way She operates throught coincidences.
Also the oi theoi site has the most complete collection of Her myths and basic info, If it helps:
I keep feeling the need to give her plants. Have you had this?